tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-812824146717614356.post8555953347247192492..comments2023-06-22T02:53:40.861-07:00Comments on Raising a Son with Autism -- Tears Of A Clown: Making the CutKatie Donohue Bevinshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02037398964822717295noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-812824146717614356.post-82199619698139208502010-07-05T13:37:06.941-07:002010-07-05T13:37:06.941-07:00how is the summer going, Katie?how is the summer going, Katie?Gimkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12228252770123863296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-812824146717614356.post-43423582500332349592010-07-03T13:20:10.757-07:002010-07-03T13:20:10.757-07:00You are in a tough place - needing to rely on othe...You are in a tough place - needing to rely on others to take care of your son's needs (like haircuts) but not having people who understand the best way to work that out. I"m sure you deal with this struggle all the time - knowing that people like this barber are probably not judging you & your son, but also don't know what to do to help. <br /><br />Reading your blog has helped me to know better how to react and communicate with the beautiful children dealing with autism that I come across in my life. I hope you know that your writing does so much more than just giving you a place to vent, it gives people like me a place to learn.<br /><br />*one thought more - my son deals with being painfully shy at times. I wonder if you've ever thought to try hair cuts while your son is sleeping? It worked okay the few times I tried it, and it stretched out the times I had to force my little guy into the chair & watch him cry. Blessings!Perfectly Imperfecthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05730955812061605134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-812824146717614356.post-65636106804939121552010-06-27T21:07:19.803-07:002010-06-27T21:07:19.803-07:00Ahh, you put it all so eloquently. It's just ...Ahh, you put it all so eloquently. It's just a day in the life of parenting a child with autism. Today we had a screaming fit for 1/2 hour because mine wanted a hot dog instead of steak. I told him he could have a hot dog for dinner, but my husband picked up some steaks to grill out and so I made those instead. My son loves steak, but since I had told him he could have a hot dog, it was game on. I did prepare a hot dog for him, but I told him that he had to stop screaming and come into the kitchen to tell me what he wanted. Eventually, he did, and he ate his hot dog. When he was done, he proceeded to take my steak off of me plate and put it on his and then asked me to cut it up for him. Grrrr... All that screaming and he ate the steak anyway. I'm thankful that we know, as moms, where the behavior stems from. If my typical child would have pulled this, I would have sent her to her room. But I knew that we had a discussion earlier in the day and that my deviation from that plan was causing him distress. It's not "nice" to listen to you vent, but it helps to hear others struggling with the day in and day out life of an autistic child. God bless you and your little guy!Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02799736854030141877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-812824146717614356.post-8445836144783279852010-06-08T13:01:55.836-07:002010-06-08T13:01:55.836-07:00Thanks to you all for sharing as well as info on w...Thanks to you all for sharing as well as info on where to take Sean for his next haircut. Nobody really knows how stressful haircuts can be for our children so it's nice to know I'm not alone!!Katie Donohue Bevinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02037398964822717295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-812824146717614356.post-39518704411012324862010-06-07T13:30:37.080-07:002010-06-07T13:30:37.080-07:00I have a son who hates the hair cuts, too. I do t...I have a son who hates the hair cuts, too. I do them at home when I have a helper to hold him down. I never quite get the haircut finished, and my son has curls that always end up remaining around his ears and the nape of his neck.<br /><br />It's so hard some days, isn't it? And people can be unbelievably mean to kids.momto2wasdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07946036639603120977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-812824146717614356.post-61258100748911140632010-06-07T08:38:24.116-07:002010-06-07T08:38:24.116-07:00For another option, Tammy from Kuts for Kids on Ha...For another option, Tammy from Kuts for Kids on Hawthorne is wonderful. She cuts the hair of a lot of kids with ASD and doesn't bat an eye. She lets them watch Tom and Jerry and is super nice. She has desensitized Sebastian to the point where we can go pretty much anywhere now without any drama. I wouldn't say she gives the BEST hair cut in Portland but she is definitely one of the most patient people and isn't bothered by any behavior. Check it out sometime. And you won't have to feel uncomfortable there!!!JChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15695307533696823346noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-812824146717614356.post-43852664169770313902010-06-07T08:26:48.715-07:002010-06-07T08:26:48.715-07:00I wonder if that barber is related to the radiolog...I wonder if that barber is related to the radiologist we had to deal with for Ethan years ago. Ugh!<br /><br />Next time, have me come along, and I can do PR for ya... I'm getting pretty amazing at shutting up the ones that think they can control ASD behaviors with their irritating comments. ;)Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12743318682622603615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-812824146717614356.post-59560891208262413302010-06-07T06:15:08.592-07:002010-06-07T06:15:08.592-07:00Man boy! Haha! You are so funny, Katie.
It never...Man boy! Haha! You are so funny, Katie. <br /><br />It never ceases to amaze me how someone could possibly think they're making something better when they're only making something so much worse. Especially when all they do is talk and talk TO you or TO your boy. It's like how the adults of Charlie Brown are portrayed! Noise!<br /><br />I used to care so much what other people think. I still do, it's my nature. But I've had to adjust because of my son, and learn to hold up my head even when I don't want to, and force myself to teach others how to behave by example. Of course, then I go home to the privacy of my own home and have a good cry!!<br /><br />I used to cut my son's hair while he was sleeping by the way. It would always seemed to look fine right then, but he'd wake up and there was always something wrong. Good to be undeterred and keep bringing him to the barber. It's hard, but there's only one way to get used to it!<br /><br />Good job, Katie!!<br /><br />xx GimkyGimkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12228252770123863296noreply@blogger.com